Why this resonates so much with me as in 2015 , I was inspired to start a coaching model / framework based on IBM’s Design Thinking framework –
“Envision to Execute” . It was about Business design blueprinting ( first in the mind and then bringing it out into the external world.)
From there my journey began to search for life’s meaning , purpose and significance.
The more I would get stuck in a concept or step , the more I would struggle to wriggle out of the stuckness and move forward- because I wouldn’t settle for anything less- my goals were larger than my life back then.
The initiative became a reality when I started testing the coaching framework with a few women at home and then extended it to corporate women and then slowly and steadily started offering it for a small fee.
It became more and more evident that the model was working and it was improving every time I interacted with new clients – they would teach me how to enhance their experience.
This way “Unlock the Blueprint of your Life’s design” from a concept that was conceived by the mind became true in my consciousness and reality -with sheer hard work and determination and that one single pointedness focus to bring it out from vision to execution. I also incorporated “The Secret” process of ASK-BELIEVE-RECEIVE and concepts from NLP.
From the Book : “The Power”
“This is the most important and crucial period of your lives, for what you do now and what you decide now at this age may well determine which way your life shall go. The question is, whether you have a proper, a solid, and a sound blueprint. I want to suggest some of the things that should be in your life’s blueprint. Number one in your life’s blueprint should be a deep belief in your own dignity, your own worth and your own somebodiness. Don’t allow anybody to make you feel that you are nobody. Always feel that you count. Always feel that you have worth, and always feel that your life has ultimate significance.”
“Secondly, in your life’s blueprint, you must have as a basic principle the determination to achieve excellence in your various fields of endeavor. You’re going to be deciding as the days and the years unfold what you will do in life, what your life’s work will be. Once you discover what it will be, set out to do it and to do it well. Be a bush if you can’t be a tree. If you can’t be a highway, just be a trail. If you can’t be the sun, be a star, for it isn’t by size that you win or you fail, be the best of whatever you are.”
Humans are emotional beings; we make connections with inanimate or animate things. And, so we do with our current environment. Sometimes, we become comfortable in discomfort. It is downright sadistic and you are inflicting pain on yourself. No sane person would want to feel pain all the time.
You want to leave them behind and have a fresh start with spontaneity and positive feelings. But your mind has become used to of these negative thoughts, how do you overcome that? It will not let go of something it has invested so much energy and time to hold and pile up. It works against you. It would tend to make you weak. But your will alone will help you triumph.
Make drastic changes, and command your mind to cope with it. Don’t let it fool you with the illusions of finding happiness in the darkness. Darkness makes you lose vision – the vision of life, opportunity, love, kindness, positivity; the list goes on. Nothing takes root in toxic soil. You have to nourish it again and that can happen only in the light.
Would letting go make you win the war?
Letting go is the first signal you give to your brain that you want to quit living like a victim. You want to cherish your battle scars and move on to the next level, and keep it up.
It is just a battle; a long war awaits you. But the first step will always be letting go of the baggage and taking time from that exhausting sulking to evaluate your environment. It includes giving up on your pre-notions, it is about adapting to the changes in your mental and physical environment and doing your best to survive. Above all, never forget to keep moving forward. Remember it is a war, and you don’t run back or standstill in the war you have to keep leading your life forward to win.
My rendezvous with letting go
Working for IBM for 15 years and having total work experience of 23 years, I too grew a lot attached to the badge that I was wearing. Being a part of a prestigious organization, people identifying me with the name of the brand, I was scared to take that sharp exit from that lane towards a new beginning – the making of Ranjini Rao, a life coach, and an entrepreneur.
But despite making peace with something that never gave me wholesome satisfaction, I gave up the comfort that emptiness offered me. I decided to take a rocky road, right up to the hilltop. It is never easy; it is never intended to be easy. Afterall battling with self is like fighting someone who knows all your secrets, it knows your strategy, and worse part is your brain has the power of seeding an illusion. See-through does lies and I am sure, even the simplest strategy will work out. Take firm decisions, challenge your mind to accept the ground reality and it will lose. You control your mind, and the rest is history.
We always talk about the pain people have caused us over the years. Surprisingly, we never talk about our own actions that are holding us back. Every opportunity that life offers us to find love, balance, stability in our personal and professional life, can have a positive or negative result. Meanwhile, we happily accept the positive outcomes and move on, we hold back the negative ones that make us excessively heavy.
It is of utmost importance that we address these negative feelings sooner than later. Letting go of old baggage will free up your body to store positive energy and get a new outlook towards life.
What is letting go and why it is important?
Imagine yourself as a clock, where all three hands have to work right to work properly. These three hands are mind, body, and soul. Holding up on your past, and not giving your life another opportunity, will burden either or all three, and the equilibrium of life is lost. Letting go is losing those feelings and set things right again. It is an exercise to become emotionally lighter. It is about leaving the hurtful feelings behind and moving on. Let go of the pain that has been holding you from reaching your full potential.
Pain and misery are a part of life, sometimes these negative feelings feast on a person’s childhood to impact most of their adult life. This makes us realize that the practice of letting go is not just something that is for a full-blown adult but also, for the children that are currently seeing a bad childhood or battling trauma and misery.
Like no two people think alike, even letting go of something has no defined process. Every person has their own mechanism to process the pain to the extent that finally, it steams out. Holding back negative feelings is not doing any harm to the people who have caused you pain, rather it is disturbing your own equilibrium.
Above all, we should not forget that we humans can only move forward. That is how life is. Holding up to something and waiting to change something that has already been done is wasting your time and energy on something that will never happen. We have done enough damage by drinking the poison of fear, hatred, regret, and emptiness, let’s not make another by carrying it our entire life.
See it as, trying to jump higher and higher every time to reach a goal. The lighter you are the higher you can jump. You need to unbuckle these feelings behind to take a higher jump each time while aiming for pedestal.
According to a HBR study — Organizations are demanding ever-higher performance from their workforces. People are trying to comply, but the usual method — putting in longer hours — has backfired. They’re getting exhausted, disengaged,and sick. And they’re defecting to healthier job environments.
Longer days at the office don’t work because time is a limited resource. But personal energy is renewable, say Schwartz and McCarthy. How might organisations buildworkers’ physical, emotional, and mental resilience for their employees?
Help your employees systematically rejuvenate their personal energy, and the benefits go straight to your bottom line.
Whats the ROI?
Wachovia Bank: Participants in an energy renewal program produced 13% points greater YoY in revenues from loans than a control group did. And they exceeded the control group’s gains in revenues from deposits by 20% points.
HOW COMPANIES CAN HELP?
By giving their employees a space to express their true selves and manage their energy- at all 4 levels,
And….Here’s a great opportunity !
Introducing “Mindfulness through artand Qi” workshop that will help employees focus on building mental resilience which is an innate ability to overcome difficult situation, challenges and overall adversities that one faces on a daily basis.Its loaded with activity and action.
An action packed virtual hour of 3 hours :
Understand employee challenges or pain points through non judgemental and non verbal method
A mandala art therapy session complimented by a centering meditation technique
Body movement to integrated and learn new behaviours or expressions
Reflections and wrap up
It will help them in developing the ability to do well in times of great stress, urgency and pressure.
Mindfulness meditation for peace , stress management and awareness
Mindfulness Meditation: Unlock the power of your mind and body
It is very hard to handle stressful situations. Every individual should learn how to become aware of it and accepting it.
One form of meditation which is very effective in dealing with the problems and difficult situations of life is known as mindfulness mediation or awareness meditation. This is often considered by many people as a miraculous technique.
It is a fact that frustrations, stress, disappointments, anger, and other related negative emotions affects the mind and body adversely. Such negative actions and emotions must be handled effectively.
Likewise, set backs must be accepted truly without causing health problems. Insight meditation is like a medicine that helps people in dealing with negative situations and emotion in a manner that is most effective to them.
Mindfulness meditation allows or requires individuals to become aware of their environment. They are more likely sensitive in perceiving each moment. Thus, they prefer to accept situations that are stressful rather than avoiding it. If you become aware about the internal status of your mind upon insight meditation, then you can learn to accept difficult circumstances without too much resistance.
By practicing mindfulness meditation, you can train your mind in achieving a tranquil state without being affected by external forces. The mind is aided in developing the needed strength to obtain such peacefulness.
Listen to this 5 minutes guided meditation that may bring out self awareness within and leave us a feedback!
Illustrated Mandala art by Ranjini Rao
So, you can say goodbye to your problems and live a better and a healthy life.
In the wake of bouncing back or getting back to the workplace ,during the unlock phase of COVID-19 , it’s a new norm but business as usual. It’s Important to bear in mind a few things:
1- continue to wear the mask , keep the sanitiser handy and avoid crowds or touching any surfaces that used by many people.
2- continue to eat healthy food or home cooked food for some more time . Workout regularly and avoid junk food ! Build your immunity by thinking positive and be strong !!
Are you geared with your “Inner-preneur mindset & skill-sets” before you become an “Entrepreneur” !
Meditation for an IOT Analytics startup – Inner Engineering or Inner-Preneur
So many engineers and Software product / service led entrepreneurs undertake e-learning courses and certifications for building humanised robots & cool apps & develop software.I realised if you want to build for humans then understand the human psyche and energy psychology. #Spiritual Technology is the art of seeding the ‘energy in the mind’ before you set out to design or code anything in the external world.
“Begin with the end in the mind” – 7 Habits of Highly Effective people
During 4 years of my entrepreneurial journey,I have been able to accomplish at least a dozen energy psychology related and holistic wellness & 21st Century aligned skills certifications than I had ever imagined in my life !
The biggest lesson learnt so far is to Get your ‘inner’ emotional issues and mental strength and resilience working as an ally for you , before you get out there and be the change in the world! Time to upgrade your minds software & install new Program codes!
Expressions and reflections from a participant of Virtual Mandala workshop
Mandalas also help in re engineering the mindsets and change the code of your DNA software ! Talk to me today to explore this further!
Holistic decluttering – I want to share 3 very powerful questions that you can ask yourselves to help you declutter at mental , emotional and physical levels to create more space in your life. Use the waning phase of the moon cycle to dissolve or release any unwanted thoughts , feelings or actions that may be hampering your progress and growth!
During the waning moon phase, its time to uncreate, destroy and deconstruct as well !
1- Start with writing down the things “I will stop Doing” list at least 15 of them for the coming calendar month
Spending detox : “I am cautiously spending on the things I really need not what I want.”
Social media detox : “I have stopped answering what’s app messages from 7 am to 8 am “
Diet detox : “I am no longer adding chips/ fried items/ processed foods to my shopping cart”
2- Watch your thoughts list everyday for 14 days and catch them when you think negative and write them in your diary / journal “I will Stop thinking about “ list
3- Notice your feelings and emotions and write down what you really felt or talk to yourself on why you felt so and offer gratitude to your feelings! Surrender those feelings to the universe! Stay positive!
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