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What is NLP?

NLP -Neuro linguistic programming Is about changing the way you think about thinking.Thought experiments . Technology that reveals thoughts feelings and actions to be habitual programs open to manipulation .
 

NLP : The new technology of achievement best introductions to the discipline.

Benefits of NLP are :

Getting motivated

Discovering your mission

Achieving your goals 

Creating rapport and strong relationships 

Persuasion techniques and strategies

Eliminating fears and phobias 

Building self confidence 

Creating self appreciation and self esteem 

Securing a positive and mental attitude 

Achieving peak performance 

The 10 Principles of NLP are  :

1-Map is not the territory 

2-Experience has a structure 

3-If one person can do something anyone can learn to do it 

4-The mind and body are parts of the same system 

5-People already have all the resources they need 

6- You cannot not communicate

7- The meaning of your communication is the response you get 

8- Underlying every behavior is a positive intention 

9-People are always making the best choices available to them 

10- If what you are doing isn’t working , do something else . 

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How Awareness of her own emotions raised her ability to manage her emotional intelligence in a big way!

Here is a story of a Corporate mom who came to me initially when I had setup my counselling practice and then undertook Reiki practitioner course for her own emotional awareness and raise her level of socially being aware of her kids emotions.

I share the truth about the emotional baggages and unfulfilled dreams that parents hold back and how they are unaware of it at a deep subconscious level keeping them in a victim mindset or comfort zone. Yes, for sure Mom’s have a care giving attitude and it is natural to be over protective about their kids but it is certainly not a way to remain in ignorance as far as their emotions are concerned.

Her name was Raji and she told me she couldn’t bear the changes that her son was going through and he was misbehaving with her a certain way and it will never happen that he might listen to her in this lifetime! She said , “I think his behaviour bothers me much all the time”.

How I proved her wrong?

When we digged further, her deep rooted beliefs and her unhappiness about leaving her job for taking care of her family and raising her kids and she had gotten too much involved into his matters . He was growing into a teenager and had his own emotional needs however she was too obsessed about his habits and him being unorganised at home and constantly comparing her studious daughter and her unruly son !

I asked her some powerful questions – and she said her health was deteriorating and she wanted to let out her personal grievances one by one.

The truth was she was going through a mid life crisis and hormonal imbalances and once women get signals from the body -they kinda trigger emotions and cause inner turbulences, however women typically attribute t to their kids and house hold members…She had tried meditation and various other techniques but couldn’t focus much.

Women and Hormonal Imbalance | DietZones
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This is exactly where I come in as my role as a spiritual change catalyst and emotional intelligence facilitator and helped her understand her own emotional state and once she was able to bring awareness around her emotions and watch her behaviours and thoughts -they would shift her perspective about her son.

She had one of her breakthroughs her belief systems once she did Reiki and shared me her observations about her thoughts and feelings and decided to take full responsibility for herself. She became more understanding towards her son especially and tried not to compare too much.

She started on a daily routine and included self care and goals setting into her lifestyle design ! She messaged me one fine day and told me she undertook “Art of Living” course and was much more at peace and balanced state of mind.She also invested in her self care by spending more time with kids and tutoring other kids.

Will you fuel your anger or frustration or raise awareness on your emotions and beliefs ? Have you heard or been there in such a similar situation? Let me know here.

Art of letting go pain and misery – Part 1

We always talk about the pain people have caused us over the years. Surprisingly, we never talk about our own actions that are holding us back. Every opportunity that life offers us to find love, balance, stability in our personal and professional life, can have a positive or negative result. Meanwhile, we happily accept the positive outcomes and move on, we hold back the negative ones that make us excessively heavy.

It is of utmost importance that we address these negative feelings sooner than later. Letting go of old baggage will free up your body to store positive energy and get a new outlook towards life.

What is letting go and why it is important?

Imagine yourself as a clock, where all three hands have to work right to work properly. These three hands are mind, body, and soul. Holding up on your past, and not giving your life another opportunity, will burden either or all three, and the equilibrium of life is lost. Letting go is losing those feelings and set things right again. It is an exercise to become emotionally lighter. It is about leaving the hurtful feelings behind and moving on. Let go of the pain that has been holding you from reaching your full potential. 

Pain and misery are a part of life, sometimes these negative feelings feast on a person’s childhood to impact most of their adult life. This makes us realize that the practice of letting go is not just something that is for a full-blown adult but also, for the children that are currently seeing a bad childhood or battling trauma and misery.

Like no two people think alike, even letting go of something has no defined process. Every person has their own mechanism to process the pain to the extent that finally, it steams out. Holding back negative feelings is not doing any harm to the people who have caused you pain, rather it is disturbing your own equilibrium.

Above all, we should not forget that we humans can only move forward. That is how life is. Holding up to something and waiting to change something that has already been done is wasting your time and energy on something that will never happen. We have done enough damage by drinking the poison of fear, hatred, regret, and emptiness, let’s not make another by carrying it our entire life.

See it as, trying to jump higher and higher every time to reach a goal. The lighter you are the higher you can jump. You need to unbuckle these feelings behind to take a higher jump each time while aiming for pedestal.